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Worry: An Attempt to Do Away with Fear

Generously contributed by Dwight GoldWinde, Coach and Revolutionary Thinker

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Worry: An attempt to do away with fear

Worry is an attempt to do away with fear.
Worry is resistance to fear.

When you are worrying,
you are trying to figure out a way
to not be frightened, aren't you?

There is nothing wrong with looking
for a way to reduce our fear.
The problem is our resistance to the fear.
When we resist our fear we reduce our resourcefulness
and we tend to over-control,
often getting results that are opposite to our intentions.

The next time you notice that you are worrying,
pause for a moment.
Take several deep breaths and relax into the fear,
allowing it to flow through you.
Then, as loudly as possible, given the situation you're in,
shout out with very long breaths,
"Boy, am I scared!" several times.

Once you've done this,
notice that the worry
does not hold you as tightly as it did before.
Notice the increased feeling
of self-confidence and resourcefulness.

Fear is not your enemy.
The energy of fear can be your ally.
It is resisted fear that is your enemy.

The next time you notice yourself worrying,
take advantage of the opportunity
to embrace the energy of your fear,
bringing its vitality to your desires and commitments.

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Copyright 2002 Dwight GoldWinde

"Courage may be dangerous,
     but it's the safest choice we've got." -DG

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"Courage Now" written and contributed by Dwight GoldWinde,
     now living in Kunming, China.

Here is the "Courage Now" Vision and Purpose:

We are the people who are spearheading
     and introducing to the world
     a profound and revolutionary understanding
     of the nature of courage
     and its fundamental role
     in creating the world that we all want.

Our goal is to empower people and ourselves,
     not only in creating the results
     we all want in our lives,
     but also to provide access to
     an ongoing sense of both peace and excitement.

We are specifically dedicated to bringing
     connection,
     adventure,
     innocence,
     playfulness,
     and romance
     to the day-to-day experience of every human being.

-J. Dwight GoldWinde-

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Since the distinction of courage
     plays a central role
     in the quality and results of our lives,
     I have included that distinction here
     for your continued consideration:

Courage is the will and the willingness
     to embrace and fully feel your fear
     as you take the actions and risks
     in service to
     your highest commitments and deepest desires.

Courage is created; it is chosen.
     And it is chosen in the moment.
     It is always available to you.
     It is always an open door,
          waiting for you to walk through or not.
Courage cannot be stored or built up.
It's inaccurate to say that you "have courage"
     or you "don't have courage."
It's accurate to say that you "choose courage"
     or "choose to feel safe in the moment
          rather than choose courage."

Many of us appear to choose courage when,
     in fact, the courage we choose
     is only "standing on one leg."
Almost all of us are masters
     at suppressing, denying, camouflaging,
          contracting against, and/or pushing away
          (or trying to argue away) our fear.

We do this for the deadening, anesthetic effect
     we expect it to have on our fear.
Full courage includes
     a full acknowledgment, embodiment,
     and illumination of our fear
     while we are taking the appropriate actions.
It also includes an acknowledgment and honoring
     of ourselves for choosing the courage
     -regardless of the outcome.
Courage exists independently of the outcome.

Choosing courage (or not choosing courage)
     is neither good nor bad, neither right nor wrong.
     It is simply a choice,
          with associated benefits and costs.
A life primarily oriented
     towards the choice of courage
     will give you one life
     -a life you will love.
A life primarily oriented
     towards the choice of feeling safe and secure
     will give you another life
     -a life of survival and withdrawal.
It's okay to want to feel safe and secure.
     We all want that.
But, when feeling safe and secure becomes
     your primary orientation
     (usually by default),
     then you are living a life of avoidance
     rather than a life of inspiration.

-J. Dwight GoldWinde October 24th, 1991-
Copyright 1991-2005 Dwight GoldWinde